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Jan 2021
49m 7s

I hate you, please don't leave me

Sara Abbott, MSW, LCSW, LICSW
About this episode

Laurie and Sara discuss their experiences in unstable relationships and how they have used dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) skills to try and have healthy relationships with open and effective communication. 

The DBT skill DEARMAN is used in examples like: when mother in laws are triggering and when people say they are leaving their girlfriends for you but then don’t….  

This episode also features the best and most hilarious story of the podcast so far. If there was Bold Beautiful Borderline merch there would be absolutely be something that says “Don’t blow on my noodles Sharon!”

This episode featured Laurie Edmundson who previously was a co-host of this project. You can find her at https://www.laurieedmundson.com and on IG @laurieanned where you will find ways to access The Super Feelers Club and other projects she works on.


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Corey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE
Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE

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