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Dec 2021
1h 10m

97. You Have to Hug Me Before You Leave

Ben Fineman and Caroline Wiita
About this episode

Dual relationships can be perfectly fine in therapy. But imagine if your therapist was also working with your good friend… and that friend's girlfriend… and the therapist hired your friend to be her dog walker… and everyone's private information was shared in session with no concern for confidentiality. That's the first ten minutes of Anna's story, and it gets worse from there. So, so much worse.

 

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Introduction: 0:00 – 2:34

Part One: 2:34 – 55:03

Part Two: 55:03 – 1:10:55

 

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