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Apr 2022
51m 40s

Acceptance: You’re Okay, I’m Okay

Ten Percent Happier
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It can be quite rare to find yourself in a place where you feel totally accepted. In this episode, producer Reva Goldberg takes us to a truly unique beauty salon: it’s the ultimate safe space for its customers, many of whom are in their 80s and 90s. We take a close look at two hairdressers who create a laugh-out-loud-funny atmosphere, while also showing deep compassion at the same time. We’ll also explore why feeling unconditionally accepted helps us cope with the toughest emotions at any age.


Featured in this episode are Dr. Pablo Sabucedo and Dr. Rebecca Allen.


The Ten Percent Happier app has several meditations for working on acceptance, like “Letting Tough Emotions Be” with Sharon Salzberg and “Resilience” with Sebene Selassie. To try it for free, go to tenpercent.com/more.


Follow us on Twitter at @podfeelings, and if you’ve got a question or story about an emotion you’re grappling with, send us a voice memo at morethanafeeling@tenpercent.com.


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