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May 2022
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165: How “Sexual Expectations” Affect Yo...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

When it comes to sex, some of us have very specific ideas about what it should be like in a relationship.

There’s the “sexual destiny” mindset, which says that sex should be amazing from the start and is entirely about natural chemistry.

Then there’s the “sexual growth” mindset, which says that sex can improve over time and couples can work out sexual differences.

In this episode, Matt and Stephen discuss the difference between these mindsets and what they mean for a potential relationship.

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