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Apr 2022
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When You’re FEELING INSECURE, Do This To...

Impact Theory
About this episode

Do you have an internal voice screaming every time you’re ready to speak up about something you see could be done better? Does the voice get louder in agony when you get complimented on the project knocked out of the park and impressed everyone? What does that inner voice say to you when you’re scrolling and see how much prettier, how much richer, how much more ‘ers’ everyone else seems to have on your feed?

You want to be more confident. You want to accept praise with grace, and not feel like a total imposter as you reach new levels. Learning how to discern and control your inner voice is a critical lesson that takes specific strategies, trial, errors, and lots of practice over time. Lisa is giving you a run down on tactics and strategies you can start practicing immediately to step up and stop villainizing your inner critic, your inner voice, today!

You don’t have to give default to feeling jealous, you can absolutely feel inspired. You don’t have to deflect the compliments you receive, you can accept them and simply say thank you. Get ready to take notes and put these tips into practice right away!


SHOW NOTES:

Trick to Comparison | Comparison that inspires and avoids feelings that bring you down [0:13]

Be Confident | Lisa’s tips to show up confidence without being obnoxious, or arrogant [5:46]

Accept Praise | Why you should stop deflecting compliments immediately and own it [12:32]

To Fake It or Not | Do what makes you feel best and don’t waste time on anything else [17:59]

Inner Critic | How to change your inner critic’s voice by listening and not villainizing her [21:32]


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