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Apr 2022
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Stop BEATING Yourself Up, Make BIG Chang...

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About this episode

When you’re a high performer and someone on a mission to reach the highest levels of success, you have to set the bar ridiculously high and get after it. This becomes problematic for people when they’ve set unrealistic expectations and goals so high they start experiencing a sense of shame and failure. Can you set ridiculously high expectations and still be cool with imperfection? Tom reveals why it’s so important for you to do and believe that which moves you towards your goals. When aiming for perfection hinders your performance and ability to execute, it’s time to rethink your strategy. Being imperfect still allows you to achieve more than most ever will if you are willing to value the sincere pursuit of your goal over feeling good enough trying to avoid failure along the way.


SHOW NOTES:

0:00 | Introduction

0:21 | Perfectionism Doesn’t Serve You

5:30 | Value the Sincere Pursuit

10:19 | Is It Perfection or High Standards?

14:00 | How to Set Standards

18:42 | Constructive Self-Criticism


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