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Apr 2022
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EP276 - How to Create Your Own Sexual Fa...

Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.d, Psychology Of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
About this episode

Welcome to episode 276 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why having fantasies is important, analyzing the over-empowerment or “rape” fantasy and understanding the importance of allowing your fantasies to expand. 

 

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, a certified sex therapist, is the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, the largest independent sexual health center in the country.  She’s the author of Sex Points: Reclaim Your Sex Life with the Revolutionary Point System.  She earned her Ph.D. in Human Sexuality and a Master’s in public health at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality; she holds a master’s degree in social work from Columbia University and a master’s degree in Jewish Studies from the Jewish Theological Seminary. 

  

Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices, and laboratories. She has lectured internationally on women’s issues, gives frequent Grand Rounds to medical health providers, as well as lecturing to sex therapists around the world.  
 
She has been a guest on numerous radio and television shows, including CNBC, CBS News, Huffington Post Live, and NPR and been profiled in the New York Times Magazine, Time Magazine, and Westchester Magazine, among others.  

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

  • Why having fantasies is important  
  • How many women fear their whole sex life is broken if one thing isn’t working  
  • How fantasies are one of the most powerful tools you can use for great sex 
  • Looking at how the brain functions with sexual fantasies  
  • Understanding how we form sexual fantasies  
  • Analyzing the over-empowerment or “rape” fantasy  
  • Understanding that the over-empowerment fantasy is completely normal  
  • How sexual fantasies can improve sex with your partner 
  • Ways in which you can get inspired for new sexual fantasies  
  • Understanding the importance of allowing your fantasies to expand  

 

 

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