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Mar 2022
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4 Things That Are Not Love and 4 Ways To...

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Love isn’t love when you don’t grow together, when you don’t appreciate your partner’s efforts and time, when your goals do not align with the other, and when you aren’t fully committed  to the relationship. Love is deep and sometimes complicated, but it’s never about doing things separately or losing interest in what the other person is doing. 

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about the different things and emotions that are disguised as love and what truly makes a relationship work and last.

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Key Takeaways:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:13 How do you know when you’re in love?
  • 07:54 Point #1: Validation is not love
  • 11:11  Point #2: Trying to be liked is not love
  • 14:49 Point #3: Power is not love
  • 16:55 Point #4: Pain is not love
  • 18:02 Growth is love
  • 20:27 Appreciation is love
  • 21:26 Alignment is love
  • 23:31 Commitment is a sign of love
  • 24:07 Experimenting together as love

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