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Jan 2022
55m 29s

EP266 - How to Become Sexually Dominant ...

Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.d, Psychology Of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
About this episode
Welcome to episode 266 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Fredrick Zal to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes, how you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant and ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink. 

 

Fredrick’s sexuality education work has focused upon erotically marginalized communities, partnerships, and individuals since 2006 by "Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts" in private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide.   

 

They teach mindfulness, ritual, communication, consent, sexual attitudes reassessment, tantra, kink, and other embodied erotic pathways with an ever broadening understanding of power differentials, socio-political impacts over the centuries, and ways to truly dismantle what they feel in their blood and bones to be a corrupt and flawed acculturalized system.   

 

When not teaching or doing sexuality research; Fredrick endeavors to focus life around what they love, which is the arts, getting outside for adventures, sharing quality time and food with friends, practicing 茶道 (Chado, Japanese Tea Ritual), and movement such as yoga and dance. 

   

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

  • Looking at the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes 
  • Understanding that it’s normal to have interest in kink  
  • How kink is centered around a heart and mind connection 
  • Ways in which we can cultivate our emotions to fully embody kink 
  • Looking at the differences between tops and bottoms 
  • How you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant
  • Understanding the powerplay dynamics and their relationship to kink
  • Looking at ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink 
  • The importance of after care and clear communication  

 

Valentine's Day 

If you would like to shake things up this Valentine’s Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176  

 

Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth! 

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Find Fredrick Zal Online 

http://www.tantrickink.com  

 

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