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Aug 2022
36m 3s

Episode 119: All About Kink

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
Let's get kinky! Today's episode is a compilation of some of my favorite clips about the psychology of kink, BDSM, and fetishes. We're going to revisit my interviews with Dr. Richard Sprott (Episode 44), Dr. Jim Pfaus (Episode 56), filmmaker and former professional dominatrix Stavroula Toska (Episode 72), and sex therapist Shamyra Howard (Episode 8). Some of the topics we explore in this show include:
  • What does the term kink really mean anyway? And what's the difference between kink, fetish, and BDSM?
  • Where do kinky interests come from in the first place?
  • Is kink always about sex? What are some other reasons people are drawn to kink?
  • What are the most common issues that come up in sex and relationship therapy with kinky folks?
  • How do you navigate consent and kink to ensure everyone's boundaries are respected?
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