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Jan 2022
48m 40s

What Makes Relationships Thrive

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
About this episode

Everyone wants to be loved and appreciated. But psychologist Harry Reis says there’s another ingredient to successful relationships that’s every bit as important as love.

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