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Dec 2021
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It's Not Me, It's You: Needs Are a Two-W...

The Angry Therapist
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An extra hard day of parenting can test your relationship in many ways, especially in terms of having your needs met. Getting your needs met isn’t just about asking for them. Your partner should move toward you as well, especially if you have difficulty expressing your needs. Needs are a two-way street. Let John and Vanessa explain. Learn more about ... Show More
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