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Sep 2021
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Shame Is the Ticking Time Bomb Paralyzin...

MARK METRY
About this episode
One of the byproducts of facing social anxiety is hiding everything from everyone.

Looking back at my own life, I didn’t tell anybody about what I was doing. I was trying to hide the good and the bad from everyone. Hiding from my friends, family, online, and the world because I felt as if I wasn’t good enough to share.

On top of that, I was afraid of people’s opinions and afraid of how they would be used against me to instill doubts, hiding and holding everything as a secret is a defensive mechanism.

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For me, I was hiding that I literally couldn’t talk to people (social anxiety) was holding my neck down 24/7. What I learned is when you hide from other people, most times you hide it from yourself too.

Something happens in life that you don’t know how to handle, so you take it and throw it to the back of your mind and lock it in a black box of shame. While this may be an effective short-term solution, oftentimes what you will find is that 10 years later that same issue you thought you hid is now controlling your behavior in what seems like a totally separate environment.

Trying to hide everything in your life creates the ultimate breeding ground for shame to build up. Living a hidden shameful life leads someone to have no confidence, bad self-esteem, and in turn developing poor mental health and bad unhealthy habits.

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