How do you motivate kids and guide them to choose to do the right thing without rewards and manipulation? Sticker charts, bribery, grades, allowance, saying good job, you name it, we’ve tried it all. This week, we discuss how to internally motivate your kids with connection. Congrats to our drawing winner, Katy T!! Please please rate, review and subscribe. C ... Show More
Jun 30
The Quiet Child Nobody Worries About: What's Actually Going On
Most of us were raised to believe that a "good" child is a calm child, who does not push back, does not melt down, does not make the adults around them uncomfortable. We have spent generations praising children for the absence of need. But the absence of need is not the same as t ... Show More
18m 30s
Jun 23
The Hidden Cost of Emotionally Immature Parents (And How to Stop Passing It On)
Many of us grew up in homes where emotions were dismissed, mistakes were punished, and children learned to manage the feelings of the adults around them. As parents, we often recognize those patterns intellectually, but recognizing them and changing them are two very different th ... Show More
18m 2s
Nov 2023
64. Rewards, Consequences, and Bribing
<p>In this episode, we're challenging the conventional use of rewards in potty training. Rewards can be counterproductive, leading to entitlement and a reliance on external motivation, and can even become punishments when a child is not yet capable of achieving the desired be ... Show More
21m 35s
Mar 2024
Privileges, Praise and Labels
Do your kids follow the rules you set, or is it a struggle for them to obey? While some children are more rules oriented than others, Dr. Randy Schroeder will speak with Jim Daly about why rules must be forged inside a healthy relationship with your kids. You'll also hear John an ... Show More
12m 20s
Apr 2019
Chores, Fortnite, Authority, Respect. Kids Who Give Up When It’s Difficult
Do you agree or disagree with Kirk’s shocking advice for handling a child who yells at his Mom and defies her authority? Learn why some kids shut down and aren’t motivated. What do you do when one child takes all of your energy and attention? How do you help kids who give up when ... Show More
23m 39s
Sep 2023
160. Punished by Rewards?
<p>#160: In this episode, we explore the radical claims made by Alfie Kohn in his 1993 book <em>Punished by Rewards</em>. Kohn, an expert in education and psychology, argues against the use of rewards to incentivize behavior. For Kohn, such incentives cause people to lose intrins ... Show More
27m 5s