How do you motivate kids and guide them to choose to do the right thing without rewards and manipulation? Sticker charts, bribery, grades, allowance, saying good job, you name it, we’ve tried it all. This week, we discuss how to internally motivate your kids with connection. Congrats to our drawing winner, Katy T!! Please please rate, review and subscribe. C ... Show More
Aug 11
Your Kid Doesn't Need Two Houses That Agree, They Need One That's Safe
We've all been told the same thing. Kids need consistency above everything else. The same rules, the same bedtime, the same consequences in every home they live in. So when the other parent won't get on the same page, we panic. We send the articles. We lecture. We build the case. ... Show More
23m 54s
Aug 4
Rewards Are Punishments in Disguise
For years, I thought I was doing everything right. I had left the yelling behind. I praised my girls constantly; I made star charts. I was a trained teacher and a school counselor, and I believed with my whole heart that catching kids being good was the kind, positive way to pare ... Show More
10m 16s
Nov 2023
64. Rewards, Consequences, and Bribing
<p>In this episode, we're challenging the conventional use of rewards in potty training. Rewards can be counterproductive, leading to entitlement and a reliance on external motivation, and can even become punishments when a child is not yet capable of achieving the desired be ... Show More
21m 35s
Mar 2024
Privileges, Praise and Labels
Do your kids follow the rules you set, or is it a struggle for them to obey? While some children are more rules oriented than others, Dr. Randy Schroeder will speak with Jim Daly about why rules must be forged inside a healthy relationship with your kids. You'll also hear John an ... Show More
12m 20s
Apr 2019
Chores, Fortnite, Authority, Respect. Kids Who Give Up When It’s Difficult
Do you agree or disagree with Kirk’s shocking advice for handling a child who yells at his Mom and defies her authority? Learn why some kids shut down and aren’t motivated. What do you do when one child takes all of your energy and attention? How do you help kids who give up when ... Show More
23m 39s
Sep 2023
160. Punished by Rewards?
<p>#160: In this episode, we explore the radical claims made by Alfie Kohn in his 1993 book <em>Punished by Rewards</em>. Kohn, an expert in education and psychology, argues against the use of rewards to incentivize behavior. For Kohn, such incentives cause people to lose intrins ... Show More
27m 5s