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Oct 2019
18m 10s

Rewards

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
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How do you motivate kids and guide them to choose to do the right thing without rewards and manipulation? Sticker charts, bribery, grades, allowance, saying good job, you name it, we’ve tried it all. This week, we discuss how to internally motivate your kids with connection. Congrats to our drawing winner, Katy T!! Please please rate, review and subscribe. C ... Show More
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