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Nov 2021
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S13E12: Do Relationships Make You Happy?...

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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Maybe you've had the thought 'once I get in a relationship, then I'll be happy' or 'once I get married, THEN I'll be happy'. We're chatting with positive psychology expert and celebrity happiness coach Rob Mack about why we often look to relationships as our source of happiness, when this is something we can find from within. We discuss how we're wired for happiness, how to come out of situations that don't make us happy, and why it's more important to find someone who supports our happiness over becomes our happiness.

Trigger Warning: There is a brief mention of thoughts of suicide when Rob shares his story.

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