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Sep 2021
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What do you think about during sex?

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About this episode

We're talking about "spectator sex". Not ACTUALLY watching yourself. But being HYPER-aware of how you look or feel to the other person present. When we're spectatoring, it’s like we're floating above ourselves. And not in a kinky, mirror above the bed kind of way.  So how can we stop watching and start enjoying?

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Host: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88.
Content: Amy Molloy @amy_molloy.
Executive Producer: Elise Cooper
Editor: Adrian Walton

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