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Sep 2017
26m 37s

When Kids Are Defiant: Teaching Without ...

KIRK MARTIN
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When Kids Are Defiant: Teaching Without Escalating So what do you do when your child just flat out refuses to do what you ask? How can you teach your kids without lecturing, yelling, or escalating situations? Learn very practical steps through Kirk's infamous "Rake Leaves" example with his son, Casey. Email Casey@CelebrateCalm.com or call 888-506-1871 to get ... Show More
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