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Sep 2021
1h 15m

S13E6: The Science of Attraction w/ Paul...

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're talking with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab about how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection. why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build ov ... Show More
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