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Sep 2021
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8 Principles of Communication to Improve...

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“I hear you. I understand that this is difficult for you. What can I do to help?” These are the words we desperately want to hear when things don’t work out in our life. We expect our partners to be there for us, to understand what we are feeling and why we are feeling these emotions.

However, some of us don’t get to hear these words. Some of us don’t get the understanding and support we need. Some of us could no longer connect emotionally with the people we love. And this disconnection is putting a strain on our relationships.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares principles for us to be an effective communicator so that our partner, our family, and friends can tap on deepest emotions and so that we can tap into theirs.

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Key Takeaways:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 03:30 The number one indicator for a good human life was the quality of our relationships
  • 07:06 Point #1: We haven’t learned to communicate with ourselves
  • 09:57 Point #2: Your self-talk
  • 13:31 Point #3: Let’s experiment
  • 17:10 Point #4: Repeat what other person said, what you heard, and then what you felt
  • 20:21 Point #5: Separate the content from the context
  • 22:45 Point #6: Us and We, not You and Me
  • 24:54 Point #7: Focus on what builds trust
  • 28:43 Point #8: Find time to connect with your partner

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