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Aug 2021
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Ep. 339: Why It’s More Helpful to Ask fo...

Gretchen Rubin / The Onward Project
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We discuss why, if we’re facing a challenge, it can be more helpful to focus on need than anger, explore a know-yourself-better question related to textures, and a listener asks: I’m back in the office; what do I do about a co-worker who won’t stop talking to me?


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