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May 2019
33m 33s

Are they for real: Is it all lies and de...

PAUL COLAIANNI
About this episode

The actor in the relationship can fool the best of us. When you can't tell what's an act and what's real, you soon start to question your own sanity.

The actor doesn't love, they control. A real partner shows empathy and wants to see you happy. It's easy to tell the difference looking at it from the outside in, but sometimes impossible to see it while you're in it.

Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

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