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Jun 2021
40m 13s

Jim Dethmer: You're Allowed to Be Scared

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About this episode

One thing most leaders have in common is that they want to perform well. And that often leads them into the trap of believing that to be a great leader, you’re not allowed to be scared—or at least that you'd better not show it.

In this episode, Jim Dethmer invites us to embrace the opposite: allowing yourself to be fully present and fully alive—including feeling all your feelings—is the first step towards more conscious leadership, whether you’re leading a team, or just leading yourself through life. The key question is: are you ready to make that shift? This is your first step for learning how.

This episode is the first  of the two-parter on the book The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership: A New Paradigm for Sustainable Success https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership-en [1], that Jim wrote  with Diana Chapman and Kaley Warner Klemp. You can listen to the second part with Diana Chapman right away—it’s already in the feed. 

Apps mentioned by Jim:
- Mind Jogger for Apple devices 
- Randomly RemindMe for Android devices 

Books recommended by Caitlin and Ben:

- No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work, by Liz Fosslien and Mollie West Duffy 

- Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life, by Byron Katie with Stephen Mitchell 

- Daniel Goleman’s books on emotional intelligence 

Try Blinkist for free for 14 days by going to [https://www.blinkist.com/simplify\][2], tapping on Try Blinkist at the top right, and entering the code THELINE.

Let us know what you thought of this episode, or just come say hi on Twitter! Find Caitlin at @caitlinschiller https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller [3], Ben at @bsto https://twitter.com/bsto [4]. Simplify is produced by Caitlin Schiller, Ben Schuman-Stoler, Ines Bläsius and Marta Medvešek. Thanks to Luiza S. Carvalho for audio engineering chops and Odysseas Constantinou for music.

[1] https://www.blinkist.com/en/nc/browse/books/the-15-commitments-of-conscious-leadership-en
[2] https://www.blinkist.com/simplify
[3] https://twitter.com/caitlinschiller
[4] https://twitter.com/bsto

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