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Oct 2017
36m 36s

#347: The Science of Social Awkwardness

THE ART OF MANLINESS
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You’ve likely experienced an awkward moment or two in your life. You say or do something that’s out of social sync, leaving the person you’re interacting with bemused, and you feeling like running and hiding under a rock. While awkwardness is an uncomfortable feeling and can hurt us socially, my guest today argues that there is some upside to it too. His nam ... Show More
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