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Jul 2019
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90. Perfectionist Fantasies + Tomorrow T...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
About this episode

This week, I'm addressing perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I'm discussing how they work, why we indulge in them, and the consequences of staying stuck in this cycle. If there is any area of your life you're working to better or achieve something in and it isn't working, I can guarantee that this is probably the reason why. I urge you to listen to this episode closely, a few times over if necessary, to stop making plans you know you won't keep.

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