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May 2020
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25: 4 Fears That Stop People Opening Up ...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
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From Stephen (@stephenhhussey)

People spend a lot of time asking the question:

“How to do I get my partner to open up?”

But they rarely think about the ways in which they regularly punish their partner whenever they want to reveal their beating vulnerable heart.

The problem with just saying to someone, “you should open up more”, is that it’s a frustratingly vague request.

 I’ve noticed that a huge amount of my emotional openness depends on feeling like I have the right environment to be free to express what’s really going on inside.

So if you want your partner, family, or friends to open up emotionally, here are 4 worries that are probably going through their minds that need to be dealt with first...

 

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