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Nov 2019
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Bonus Episode: Speaking Out & Giving Adv...

Kristen and Jolenta
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Kristen & Jolenta are joined by advice columnist and journalist E. Jean Carroll for a spirited conversation about her new book What Do We Need Men For: A Modest Proposal. Plus, E. Jean answers listener questions about dating, workplace culture, and why road trips are the best way to find out who you are.

You can subscribe to Jolenta and Kristen's new show, We Love You (And So Can You) on Stitcher, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.

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