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Dec 2019
29m 9s

Epilogue: How to Win Friends and Influen...

Kristen and Jolenta
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The ladies respond to listener voicemails and emails about How to Win Friends and Influence People. Plus, they learn about the history of self-help with Trysh Travis, cultural and literary historian in the Center for Women’s Studies at the University of Florida. To learn more about Trysh’s research, head here. Kristen and Jolenta's new book How to be Fi ... Show More
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