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Dec 2019
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Epilogue: How to Win Friends and Influen...

Kristen and Jolenta
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The ladies respond to listener voicemails and emails about How to Win Friends and Influence People. Plus, they learn about the history of self-help with Trysh Travis, cultural and literary historian in the Center for Women’s Studies at the University of Florida. To learn more about Trysh’s research, head here.

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