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Nov 2018
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EP98 - Surviving Infidelity (Tips for th...

Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.d, Psychology Of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
About this episode

Welcome to episode 98 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Beth Luwandi Lofstrom who speaks to me about surviving infidelity as the offender, the process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner and recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck.  

 

Beth Luwandi Lofstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where her specialty areas are love and loss. She treats couples and individuals healing from infidelity and other relationship wounds. Her Whole Human Theory(TM), an approach based on brain science and methods research, also includes personality assessment to effectively confront variations in individual motivation, processing, communication, and inner world. In this way, Whole Human Theory presents an approach that gets to the core of issues in a highly efficient manner and moves people forward as quickly as possible. 

 

Her book, After the Affair, Healing for the Offender uses this unique perspective to treat infidelity from the inside out with a focus on the offender's healing. While most texts unapologetically side with the betrayed partner or give minimal empathy or time to the offender, Ms. Luwandi acknowledges and presents a road map for anyone who has ever strayed and is feeling the effects of their choices. 

 

In this episode, you will hear:  

 

  • Why Beth decided to focus on the experience of the offender  
  • The unhelpful patterns that get offenders stuck  
  • The process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner  
  • Why Beth doesn’t ask clients to break off their affairs whilst working with them  
  • How some people use affairs to get out of a relationship  
  • How much disclosure is useful around the information of sex? 
  • Recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck   

 

Resources 

http://bethluwandi.com 

https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care  

https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  

https://twitter.com/oasis2care   

https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal  

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/09/26/rebuilding-sexual-intimacy-after-sexual-betrayal/ 

Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  



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