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Aug 2019
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Problematic Issues of Porn (w/ Erika Lus...

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

"I would like to see films where women's pleasure is also in focus. Where it's important to the story that she is also having a good time."

Erotic film director, screenwriter, and producer Erika Lust discusses the science behind what arouses us, the problematic issue behind "teen porn", porn's worst stereotypes, and her favorite porn bloopers. Plus, Nicole shares her ultimate porn fantasy.

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