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Jul 2019
50m 33s

Making a Polyamorous Relationship Work (...

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

DeRay Davis (Snowfall, 21 Jump Street) has lived a polyamorous relationship with 2 women for most of his life. He explains how he introduces it to his partners, how to show respect to the parents, and how they make their atypical relationship work. DeRay breaks the stigma on polyamorous relationships and shares how him and his partners live together, vacation together, and sleep together.

Plus, Nicole tries to sleep with an audience member after a live show - and boy did it not go well.

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