In Episode 308 of the Fit Father Project Podcast, I sit down with Luke Storey — author, international speaker, spiritual teacher, and host of The Life Stylist — for a conversation that goes somewhere we haven’t gone in a while.
Not blood work. Not the hidden body systems. The stuff underneath it.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth. You can be doing everything right. Training four days a week. Hitting your protein. Sleeping eight hours. And still feel empty at the end of the day.
That feeling has a name, and it has a cost.
Loneliness in men over 40 is not a soft topic. A 2015 Brigham Young University meta-analysis pooled 70 studies and roughly 3.4 million people and found loneliness was associated with a 26% higher risk of early death.
Social isolation, 29%. Living alone, 32%. That’s not the subjective misery of it — that’s the death rate.
Luke spent nearly three decades running from that feeling through drugs and alcohol.
By 11, he was clinically addicted. By 26, he was in rehab, and on the first morning he turned his life over to a God he didn’t believe in.
What he found on the other side of that — about the mind, about cravings, about grief, and about what actually heals a man — is what this episode is about.
His new book is A Horse Named Lonesome: Tales and Teachings to Reclaim Connection, Transcend Separation, and Discover the Divine Within.
It’s already earned praise from Marianne Williamson, Steven Pressfield, and Paul Chek.
If you’ve ever reached for the glass of wine, the bowl of ice cream, or the phone at 9pm and wondered why — this one’s for you.
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Men inside this community have come off blood pressure medication, reversed prediabetes, and gotten their A1c back to normal — and just as often, they’ll tell you the bigger change was not feeling alone in it anymore.
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Luke Storey is an author, international speaker, and spiritual teacher, and the host of The Life Stylist podcast.
His new book, A Horse Named Lonesome, releases November 17, 2026, and includes “intermissions” — reflection prompts that pair with a free companion workbook.
Find the book at lukestorey.com/lonesome or ahorsenamedlonesome.com.
*Please know that weight loss results and health changes or improvements vary from person to person; you may not get similar results. Always talk to your doctor before making health decisions. This is not medical advice — simply well-researched information on longevity, connection, and healthy aging.