What if your drive to succeed, your need to do everything yourself, or your discomfort with receiving support isn't just part of your personality—but a pattern you learned in childhood?

In this episode, Kate sits down with her dear friend, therapist, and bestselling author Terri Cole to explore the invisible ways father wounds shape our relationships with money, success, love, and ourselves. Drawing from nearly three decades of therapeutic experience and insights gathered from 650 women, Terri explains why a father wound is often a worthiness wound—and how it can show up in high-achieving women who appear to have everything together on the outside.

Kate and Terri unpack the connection between father wounds, hyper-independence, people-pleasing, control, and financial behavior. They explore why some women struggle to ask for help, why earning more than your father can feel uncomfortable, and how childhood experiences can influence your relationship with financial structure, boundaries, and receiving abundance. Terri also shares a powerful distinction between ambition driven by genuine desire and ambition fueled by the need to prove your worth.

The conversation gets deeply personal as Kate shares how healing her own father wound has transformed her relationship with her dad and her ability to connect with men. Terri opens up about her relationship with her emotionally unavailable father, the unexpected healing that came from inviting him to her graduation, and how doing this work helped her recognize the man who would become her husband. Together, they explore why healing doesn't require your father's participation, permission, or even presence.

Ultimately, this episode is about moving beyond the patterns that once helped you survive and discovering what becomes possible when you no longer have to earn your worth. Because healing your father wound isn't about blaming your father—it's about reclaiming your ability to ask for what you want, receive support, create healthier relationships, and experience success from a place of freedom rather than fear.

“My healing was in the asking and being okay because the asking isn't about manipulating the other person.” - Terri Cole

🎤 Let’s Dive into the Good Stuff on Plenty 🎤
00:00 Introducing Terri Cole and Father Wounds
03:16 What Is a Father Wound?
06:16 Mother Wounds and Co-Wounding
12:02 What 650 Women Revealed
14:55 Control and Hyper-Independence
17:54 Kate's Struggle to Ask for Help
19:59 Why Asking Can Be Healing
25:56 Healing Kate's Relationship With Her Dad
32:31 Is Your Ambition Driven by Fear?
34:19 How Father Wounds Affect Money

Links and Resources
Kate's Instagram
The Wealth Mirror
Father Wound Book

Connect with Terri Cole
Website
Instagram

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