What if holding onto resentment toward your ex is keeping you connected to the very relationship you’re trying to move beyond?
In this solo episode, I explore three keys to overcoming resentment and why releasing it doesn’t mean denying what happened, excusing someone else’s behavior or pretending you weren’t deeply hurt.
Resentment can feel powerful because it allows us to hold onto the story of who was right, who was wrong and how things should have happened differently. But every time you feed that story, you continue carrying the pain forward with you.
Moving beyond resentment requires something different. It asks you to recognize what holding onto the story is costing you, take ownership of your part in the relationship and give yourself permission to actually feel what’s underneath the anger. From there, you can begin to see what the experience revealed about your patterns, your inner compass and the woman you are becoming.
This isn’t about blaming yourself for what happened. It’s about reclaiming the power to decide what you carry forward and becoming available for the love, freedom and relationships you truly desire.
In This Episode We Explore:
Your Practice for This Week:
Pay attention to how often you feed the story about your ex.
Notice the conversations where you revisit what happened, what they did wrong or why you were justified in feeling the way you do.
When the story arises, give yourself permission to move underneath it and feel what is actually there. Let yourself experience the anger, grief, betrayal or heartbreak without needing your ex to resolve it for you.
Then ask yourself: What was my part in this dynamic? What patterns was I living from? Where did I ignore my own inner knowing? And when you are truly ready, ask one more question: What did this experience give me the opportunity to learn about myself?
You cannot change what happened, but you can change what you carry forward.
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About the Host:
Kate Harlow is the founder of The Unscriptd Woman, the creator of The Expanded Love Coaching Method, and host of The New Truth podcast - ranked in the top 1.5% globally. With over 15 years of experience teaching, coaching and facilitating transformational retreats worldwide, Kate has helped hundreds of thousands of women break free from outdated relational patterns, old patriarchal ways of thinking and unspoken rules to live by.
Her infallible methods guide women to release the deeply ingrained scripts that keep them stuck- empowering women to step into their highest, most magnetic, and fully expressed selves. Through her coaching, retreats, podcast and upcoming book The Unscriptd Woman, Kate is redefining what it means to be an empowered woman in today's world, showing women how to stop waiting for permission and start creating a life and love that aligns with their deepest truth.
Known for her rare ability to see exactly where women are out of alignment with themselves, Kate offers a path back to unwavering self- trust, meaningful joy and true fulfillment. Her work is a revolution - one that liberates women from societal expectations and invites them into a life of radical authenticity, thriving relationships and unshakable self-worth.
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