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461. 10 things I NEEDED 21 year old me t...

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If I could sit down with my 21-year-old self, there are a few things I would definitely want to say. Today, I'm going to say them, like 'don't even THINK about moving in with that guy, use your savings account, care less about grades' and a few more. I also asked you guys, the listeners, about your biggest regrets from your early 20s so we can all learn from each other (how nice is that).

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We discuss:

  • Why the right relationship should expand your life, not shrink it
  • Why you shouldn’t rush into adulthood
  • Financial avoidance and learning to actually save
  • Why audacity can matter just as much as hard work
  • Caring less about grades and more about experience
  • Why nobody can tell you exactly how to live your 20s

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