She spent years trapped in a cycle of love bombing, addiction, and violence with a man who once strangled her unconscious. Then one night, scrolling Facebook on her back porch, she watched his death unfold live on her screen before anyone told her.
This week, Mac and Phil sit down with Randin Steed, who writes as Sunshine Faye, author of Dance With the Devil and The Manipulation Whisperer, and cohost of the podcast Stories We Weren't Supposed to Tell.
🕯️ The night she said goodbye to her abuser, not knowing it was the last time she'd see him alive
📱 How she found out he'd been murdered, not from a phone call, but from a Facebook Live video of the scene
🚓 The time police drove her to jail instead of him, after he choked her unconscious and dragged her by the hair
✍️ Why she wrote her first book raw and unfiltered, and what happened when she realized how many people needed it
🧠 Her breakdown of the hook, the love bombing and future faking that gets survivors stuck before they even see it coming
♟️ The difference between gray rocking and what she calls yellow rocking a co parent who won't disengage
💬 Why she believes healthy people gaslight too, and where the real line between normal conflict and manipulation actually sits
This one is heavy, unfiltered, and honest about the messy, nonlinear road out. Randin doesn't hand you a bow on top. She hands you the truth and tells you to stand up.
⚖️ Disclaimer (because our lawyers make us say this): Dimming The Gaslight is based entirely on true events, except for the stuff we totally made up. Names, locations, and other identifying details have been changed. If you think we're talking about you in this podcast, newsflash, you're the narcissist.
Books: Dance With the Devil and The Manipulation Whisperer by Sunshine Faye, available on Amazon
Podcast: Stories We Weren't Supposed to Tell
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