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Sep 10
45m 34s

The Ultimate Comeback Series: Choosing y...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

Most comeback stories start with something breaking — a breakup, a diagnosis, a rug pulled out from under you. But there's a much quieter, harder version: choosing to walk into a comeback when nothing forced your hand. No crisis giving you permission, no one around you validating the hard part, no urgency pulling you forward — just you, deciding to become someone different on purpose. In this episode, Whitney Uland joins Dorothy to unpack why a self-chosen reinvention can feel so much slower and more disorienting than one you were thrust into, even though it's supposedly the "easier" version. Whitney gets specific about what's actually missing when you're building a comeback nobody's making you have, and what she's found that works in its place. If you've ever felt stuck wondering why you can't just decide to change when nothing's technically wrong, this conversation names exactly what's happening — and gives you something to do with it besides waiting for a crisis to make the decision for you.

Learn more about Whitney Uland:

Instagram: @whitneyuland
Website: https://www.howtobefamous.org/  

 

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