Something happens…
and within about three seconds, you turn it into a statement about who you are.
You procrastinated → "I'm so lazy."
You overspent → "I'm terrible with money."
You missed the workout → "See? I can never stick to anything."
You felt awkward → "I'm just not confident."
The behavior happened.
But then you made the behavior mean something about your identity.
In this episode, Allie breaks down why the language you repeatedly use about yourself matters, how your self-talk can keep rehearsing an old identity, and what to do instead without forcing yourself into fake positivity or affirmations you don't actually believe.
You'll hear:
• Why your brain is listening to the language you repeatedly use about yourself
• The difference between describing something you did and turning it into who you are
• How phrases like "I always," "I never," "I'm just," and "that's how I am" can reveal the identity you're still rehearsing
• What research on self-talk and emotional labeling can teach us about the way language affects your brain
• Why replacing one negative statement with a positive statement you don't believe isn't the answer
• How to use Allie's three-step process: Catch it. Separate it. Recode it.
• How to choose language that is accurate, believable, and points toward the version of you you actually want to become
You do not need perfect thoughts.
You do not need to monitor every sentence that comes out of your mouth.
But what you repeatedly say about yourself matters.
Because you can consciously be trying to become more consistent, confident, or intentional while spending the rest of your day casually narrating yourself back into the identity you're trying to leave behind.
So for the next 24 hours:
Watch your mouth.
Catch it.
Separate it.
Recode it.
And start noticing which version of you is getting the most airtime.
Join Allie's free live class:
Stop Starting Over
👉 https://alliecasazza.com/stopstartingover