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Sep 4
17m 36s

You're Not Sorry — You're Scared (The Ov...

PATRICK KING
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Do you find yourself apologizing when it's not your fault—constantly, even for things outside your control? Over-apologizing is often rooted in social anxiety, people-pleasing patterns, codependent tendencies, and a fear of conflict. In this video, Patrick King breaks down the psychology behind the apologizing habit, why you default to saying sorry, and practical steps to break it. You'll learn how this pattern tanks your self-respect and low self-esteem, and how to start setting boundaries without the guilt.

If you're tired of saying sorry too much and want to break that over apologizing habit, stay tuned! In this video, Patrick King dives into why we apologize so frequently—whether it's due to people pleasing, low self-esteem, or fear of conflict—and shares insights from psychology on how to stop saying sorry when it’s not your fault. Join us as we explore setting boundaries and building better social skills and communication for a healthier emotional intelligence and stronger self-respect.

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