Episode Summary:

What happens when two people who genuinely love each other slowly drift apart without realizing it? Why do so many couples look successful on the outside while quietly feeling disconnected behind closed doors? In this powerful episode, bestselling authors, marriage coaches, and hosts of the acclaimed One Extraordinary Marriage Show, Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo unpack the real reasons marriages struggle—and what couples can do to reconnect before it’s too late.

In this episode, they reveal why busyness is quietly destroying marriages, how distractions are replacing true connection, why “surviving” marriage is not enough, and what intentional intimacy actually looks like in everyday life. They also share deeply personal stories about rebuilding their relationship, navigating parenthood, handling seasons of stress and hormonal changes, and learning how to truly prioritize each other again.

Guest Bio:

Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo are bestselling authors, marriage coaches, and hosts of the One Extraordinary Marriage Show, one of the top marriage podcasts with more than 800 episodes helping couples create stronger, more connected relationships. Through their proven 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework, they teach couples how to intentionally grow emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, recreational, and sexual intimacy in every season of marriage.

After overcoming significant struggles in their own relationship, Tony and Alisa dedicated their lives to helping couples reconnect, communicate better, and rediscover joy, passion, and purpose together.

Key Quotes:

“We had three options: divorce, survive unhappily, or get radical about saving our marriage.”
“We don’t want couples to just survive marriage—we want them to thrive.”
“The sexual intimacy was the catalyst, but everything else in our marriage changed because we became intentional.”

Key Takeaways:

Prioritize your marriage intentionally instead of assuming connection will maintain itself naturally.
Small moments of connection consistently practiced over time can transform a relationship.
Every marriage season requires adjustment, flexibility, and open communication.
Intimacy is much broader than sex—it includes emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, and recreational connection.
Thriving marriages are built through intentional action, not passive hope.

Conclusion:

Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo bring an incredibly honest and refreshing perspective to marriage. Their willingness to openly discuss struggles, failures, intimacy, parenting, aging, and emotional connection makes this episode both practical and deeply encouraging. Instead of offering unrealistic perfection, they provide couples with a roadmap for intentional growth through every season of life.

Whether your marriage feels strong, strained, disconnected, or somewhere in between, this conversation offers powerful reminders that thriving relationships are built intentionally—one conversation, one choice, and one act of connection at a time.

Links & Resources:

Ready to strengthen your marriage? Explore these resources from Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo and continue building an extraordinary marriage.

One Extraordinary Marriage –https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/

One Extraordinary Marriage Show –https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/one-extraordinary-marriage-show/

Books by Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo

Continue your journey toward a stronger, more connected marriage with these bestselling books:

📘 The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=The+6+Pillars+of+Intimacy+Tony+Alisa+DiLorenzo

📘 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage

Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=7+Days+of+Sex+Challenge+Tony+Alisa+DiLorenzo