Have you ever found yourself in a heated argument with your partner and thought, "How did we get here so fast?"
In this episode, EJ and Tarah unpack a real-life moment from their own marriage that started with a simple question about putting collars on the dogs—and escalated into frustration within seconds.
What they discovered wasn't about dog collars at all.
It was something they now call Trigger Transfer—the moment when one partner's long-standing trigger quietly becomes the other partner's trigger. Over time, couples stop reacting to what's actually happening in the present and begin reacting to the history they've built together.
If you've ever felt like the smallest moments somehow turn into the biggest fights, this episode will help you understand why—and more importantly, how to interrupt the cycle before it takes over.
Am I responding to my partner... or to the story my nervous system has already started telling me?
That single question has the power to transform the way you experience conflict.
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