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Jul 15
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Why Shame Isn't the Enemy: Dr. Frank Spi...

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Dr. Frank Spinelli spent more than 20 years as a practicing physician, helping others while privately battling alcohol addiction and carrying the weight of unresolved childhood trauma. After being forced to revisit his own experience of childhood sexual abuse during the Boy Scouts of America bankruptcy case, he began to understand shame in a completely different way, ultimately developing a new framework for healing that became the foundation of his book, The Shame Compass.

In this episode, Kelly and Dr. Spinelli explore why shame isn't something to eliminate, but something to understand. They discuss the difference between shame and guilt, how trauma shapes the way we see ourselves, practical tools for working through emotional triggers, and why self-acceptance starts with curiosity instead of judgment.

Preorder Dr. Spinelli's book The Shame Compass or his website here. (FrankSpinelli.com)

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