I've been thinking a lot about why so many men end up looking for belonging in all the wrong places.
This conversation starts with the manosphere, but it quickly becomes something much bigger. Laura Ramadei and I talk about why so many boys and men are starving for connection, why "fix yourself" advice so often misses the point, and how loneliness can make almost anyone vulnerable to people selling certainty.
We get into emotional safety, friendship between men and women, why relational skills matter far beyond dating, and why being seen for who you are will always be more valuable than chasing status, money, or someone else's definition of success.
I also share some of my own experience with validation, why I spent years looking for it in sex and relationships, and what I'm still learning about opening my heart instead of protecting it.
This one's about choosing connection over performance. Mess and all.
Mentioned in this episode
Louis Theroux – Inside the Manosphere (Netflix)
https://www.netflix.com/tudum/articles/louis-theroux-inside-the-manosphere-release-date-news
"Small Hands, Big Heart" (Girthmaster & Small Hands parody)
https://www.facebook.com/61556509147521/videos/small-hands-big-heart-smallhands/1157398549907361/
Girls on Porn Podcast
About Laura Ramadei
Laura Ramadei is a sexologist and intimacy coach. She's the Safety Director at one of Los Angeles' most prominent play parties and the host of the Girls on Porn podcast.
Laura works with individuals, couples, and groups, specializing in relationship counseling, desire discrepancy, non-monogamy, queer identity, and kink.
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