Your health, relationships, and self-esteem all hinge on your attachment style. Here's how to know if you're anxious or avoidant — and how to get more secure.

Dr. Amir Levine is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and neuroscientist and coauthor of the multi-million-copy bestseller Attached, which brought attachment theory into mainstream conversation and remains the #1 book on Amazon in Relationships more than a decade later. His new book Secure expands this work into emotional regulation and everyday well-being.

In this episode we talk about:

What attachment theory is
The four attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant — and how to identify which one you are
Why your attachment style is not fixed and how it can change
What happens in your brain when you're ignored or excluded
How being securely connected can extend your life
The five pillars of a secure life
How to right-size a relationship with someone unreliable
Small, seemingly insignificant daily interactions as vehicles for change
Two rules of secure engagement that can defuse almost any argument
Why anxious and avoidant attachment styles each have genuine superpowers
How to build your "attachment topography"

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