A powerful conversation on sexuality, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, and why many midlife women lose connection to desire—not because they are broken, but because their bodies have adapted to stress and survival.
In this deeply insightful episode, Katie sits down with Dr. Julie Merriman for a powerful conversation about desire, intimacy, nervous system regulation, and why so many women experience disconnection from sex and pleasure in midlife.
Drawing from decades of clinical work with women, Dr. Julie explains that loss of desire is often not simply about hormones, aging, or relationship problems. Instead, it is frequently connected to chronic stress, burnout, nervous system overload, emotional labor, and the body adapting to years of survival mode.
Together, Katie and Dr. Julie explore how many women become disconnected from their bodies over time—and how reclaiming desire requires more than mindset or performance-based solutions.
This conversation offers a compassionate and deeply healing reframe:
You are not broken.
Your body adapted to survive.
Dr. Julie shares how her work integrates:
to help women reconnect with sensation, pleasure, embodiment, and emotional aliveness.
Rather than approaching intimacy through pressure, performance, or “fixing” the body, her work focuses on helping women understand how stress and emotional suppression reshape the nervous system over time—and how healing happens through safety, awareness, and reconnection.
Katie and Dr. Julie also discuss how emotional numbness, exhaustion, chronic responsibility, and self-abandonment can disconnect women not only from desire, but from themselves.
Why the body cannot access pleasure and connection while operating in chronic stress and survival mode.
How years of holding everything together can quietly lead women to disconnect from sensation, play, and intimacy.
Why loss of desire is often an intelligent adaptation—not a personal failure.
How embodiment, nervous system regulation, and chakra psychology create pathways back to aliveness and self-connection.
Desire does not disappear because women fail.
It often disappears because the nervous system no longer feels safe enough to open.
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156: Feeling Disconnected From Your Body? How to Come Back Home in Midlife
Buy The Book: "Are We Going To Have Sex Or What?"
Listen To The Podcast: "Sexy After 50"
Katie Farinas is a midlife coach, yoga teacher, and spiritual guide who helps women navigate midlife with clarity, peace, purpose, and empowerment. Through yoga philosophy, mindfulness, nervous system regulation, and energy-based practices, Katie supports women in reconnecting with themselves and stepping fully into their most aligned and authentic lives.
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