Most anger isn’t about the thing. It’s about what the thing means: “Someone just messed with my control.”
When your expectations get violated... plans change,d a process breaks, a person does something “unreasonable”. Your nervous system reads it like a little mugging.
And then you get reactance: that hot impulse to push back, prove a point, slam the doo ... Show More
Feb 24
How To Train Your Mind: The surprising benefits of play
Turns out you don't learn faster when you're stressed, you learn faster when you're happy! So let's talk about treating your brain like a friend, not a factory worker. Muscles respond to stress with pretty linear upgrades; brains don’t. Brains upgrade through meaning, novelty, an ... Show More
23m 24s
Feb 17
The Weird Psychology of Communication, Self-control, and Gossip: What evolution teaches us about communicating your needs clearly
In the noble quest to understand our minds, today we take a new angle. We track how grunts turned into gossip, myths, and the weird human habit of blushing when we screw up. You’ll see why your brain is basically a compression algorithm: squeezing an entire inner universe through ... Show More
39m 38s
Feb 13
Hidden Potential: The Psychology of self-sabotage and changing what's possible - Heather Moyse (2x Olympic Gold)
We all love the idea of “potential” until it quietly turns into pressure, guilt, and a weird fear of actually trying. Heather Moyse didn’t start professional sport until 27 and still became a double Olympic gold medallist. Breaking out of her social safety and truly exploring her ... Show More
53m 14s
Jul 2025
Hampus Törnskog: Ängsbacka - A story of Transformation, Community and Trust | #081
In this heartfelt episode, we dive deep into a story of transformation, community, and the search for a meaningful life. Hampus shares his journey from a traditional Swedish upbringing and a successful career in business to embracing inner transformation and becoming a community ... Show More
1h 36m
Jun 2024
Silent Minds: How Life Changes Without an Inner Monologue w/John R. Miles EP 468
<p>Do you have a voice that constantly speaks to you throughout the day? For most people, the answer is 'Yes.' This inner voice aids in decision-making, problem-solving, and self-reflection. However, some people live without this inner monologue, a phenomenon called anendophasia. ... Show More
23m 18s
May 2025
100: Mailbag: An Embarrassment of Riches
<p>Abby, Patrick, and Dan mark one hundred episodes of Ordinary Unhappiness! They start by looking back on the show’s run so far, and what they’ve gotten from engaging with psychoanalysis as a living body of knowledge, as a corpus of classic texts, as a way of seeing the world, a ... Show More
1h 30m
Sep 2024
10 Philosophy-Inspired Challenges for Becoming a Better and Happier Man
<p>Although they may call it different things and approach its attainment in different ways, many of the world’s religions and philosophies have a similar goal: achieving a life of virtue, peace, and flourishing.</p><p>In his new book, <a href="https://amzn.to/4cSdial" target="_b ... Show More
49m 43s
Sep 2025
Why So Many Get Stuck in Addiction Loops—and How to Break Them, w/ Sam Webster Harris, Growth Mindset Psychology Host
<p>🔹 Want personalized support? Book a free discovery call with Jeremy: <a href='https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/intro'>JeremyLipkowitz.com/intro</a></p><p>In this episode of Unhooked, I am joined by Sam Webster Harris, host of the Growth Mindset Psychology and How To Change The ... Show More
53m 33s
<p>In Touch with Tommy 35<br><br></p><p>“Why not me” miracles, in the shower smell a flower, charge it to the game, change your game, homesickness, hey, first paid podcast editing job, certified classic birthday day, dominate Dinucci, who’s on first? Me.<br><br></p><p>#87<br><br ... Show More
