In Session 324, Dr. Paulie Gavoni and Steve Ward join me to discuss what resilience actually looks like from a behavior science perspective — and why many well-intentioned adult responses can unintentionally teach avoidance instead of persistence.
We center our conversation around their book, S.H.I.T. Happens: Building Resilient Children in a Fragile World, which reframes resilience not as a personality trait or motivational slogan, but as a set of learnable repertoires shaped by the environments adults design
We talk about:
- Why resilience is a behavioral repertoire, not a mindset or personality trait
- The hidden ways adult anxiety shapes children's learning environments
- How overprotection and pressure both undermine skill development
- Designing "successful struggle" so kids contact reinforcement for effort
- Everyday moments — homework, sports, emotional setbacks — as resilience practice
- The adult's role as guide, not rescuer or drill sergeant
- Teaching recovery instead of avoidance
- Scaling challenges to build confidence and persistence
- Why discomfort is information, not danger
This discussion emphasizes practical decision-making: how small changes in adult behavior can create conditions where children learn to try again, persist longer, and experience the satisfaction of overcoming something difficult.
Whether you're a practitioner, educator, or parent, this episode highlights how resilience is built through repeated opportunities to struggle safely — and why those opportunities matter more than we often realize.
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