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Dec 2025
1h 6m

Why We Get It Wrong: The Pain and Beauty...

Samantha & Spencer Robbins
About this episode

What do you do when you're convinced you've heard from God—and everything falls apart? In this episode, Spencer and Sammi Robbins share stories of confusing dreams, missed signals, and the longing for divine direction that so often leads us into pain or shame. They unpack the subtle ways our desires and fears can shape what we think God is saying, and why it's so important to hold space for uncertainty, humility, and curiosity in our relationship with Him. Instead of formulas or guarantees, discover a grace-centered approach to hearing God's voice—one that's rooted in intimacy, not control. Whether you're wrestling with disappointment, searching for clarity, or simply longing to connect with God in a real way, you'll find hope, wisdom, and practical tools for your journey here.

Chapters & Timestamps 
00:00 Introduction & the longing to hear God 
03:45 Sammy's stories of God, desire, and confusion 
21:40 Disappointment and shame: when you think you missed it 
28:03 Taking risks, risking failure, and the heart-lifting shift 
36:35 Direction vs. intimacy: what matters more 
49:16 How certainty (and desperation) can become its own idol 
59:41 Learning to rest in mystery, humility, and connection 



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