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Nov 17
1h 26m

Rewriting Your Story After Trauma and Id...

Larry Hagner
About this episode

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Candice Horbacz, a former adult film star turned mindfulness advocate, podcaster, and homeschooling mother. Candice brings a rare blend of candor, introspection, and wisdom to this deeply personal conversation. We explore how she navigated radical life transitions, healed from childhood trauma, and created a home rooted in authenticity, curiosity, and emotional safety.

 

Candice opens up about her own upbringing, the dysfunction that shaped her early worldview, and how she found her way to a new version of identity after walking away from the adult industry. This episode is about reclaiming power—through parenting, partnership, and personal evolution.

 


 

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

 

[0:00] – Introduction

[1:36] – How Candice's childhood shaped her early sense of self

[4:18] – Growing up in a home where emotions weren't safe

[7:03] – Her path into the adult film industry and what it masked

[9:55] – Why the lack of secure relationships drew her toward unhealthy dynamics

[12:30] – How she began to explore healing, trauma work, and self-awareness

[14:49] – The role of her partner in helping her see her worth

[17:01] – What led her to leave the adult industry behind

[18:57] – Shifting identity and rebuilding trust within herself

[21:04] – Navigating marriage with vulnerability and truth

[23:15] – Creating emotional safety for her son as a homeschooling mom

[26:40] – Why curiosity is her #1 parenting tool

[29:21] – Helping kids navigate their own triggers without shame

[32:09] – Final reflections on how to lead with authenticity at home

 


 

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS

  1. Early Dysfunction Often Masks Itself in Achievement or Escape: Candice shares how a childhood without emotional safety pushed her to find validation in unhealthy spaces, including adult entertainment.
  2. Self-Awareness Begins with Naming the Pain: Her healing journey started by recognizing how trauma shaped her reactions, her self-worth, and her definition of love.
  3. You Can Reinvent Your Identity Without Shame: Leaving the adult film industry was a reclamation of agency, and her story proves it's never too late to rewrite your narrative.
  4. Parenting with Curiosity Builds Emotional Safety: Rather than reacting with control, Candice leans into curiosity when her son struggles—inviting connection instead of conflict.
  5. Partnerships Flourish in Vulnerability, Not Performance: With her husband, Candice found safety to explore who she truly was—laying the foundation for a conscious, present, and authentic marriage.

 

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