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Nov 17
15m 52s

244. I Didn't Know How to Be Sexy

Francie Winslow
About this episode

If sex has ever felt like something you're supposed to perform, instead of something you can enjoy, you're not alone.

If you've ever felt awkward in your body… unsure how to initiate… or disconnected from desire… this episode is for you.

Francie shares the tender, true story of how she moved from disconnection and insecurity into a deeper sense of embodiment, pleasure, and playful confidence in her marriage.

"I used to think sexy was something I had to put on. But now I know, it's something I carry when I'm connected to myself."

You'll discover:
Why feeling "off" or uncertain in your body is more common than you think
How to gently reawaken pleasure and presence (even after years of disconnection)
What it looks like to cultivate feminine energy and confidence in your own way
Simple, grace-filled ways to start feeling more at home in your body and more alive in your marriage

This isn't about pressure or performance. It's about reclaiming the goodness God designed for you… body, heart, and soul.

✨ Want to take the next step?
Join Francie's new 90-minute masterclass: Becoming Confident with Sexy Talk, your guide to finding your voice before, during, and after intimacy.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

 

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