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Nov 11
34m 45s

"When Forgiveness Feels Unfair" With Lys...

The Proverbs 31 Ministries Podcast
About this episode

Forgiveness can sometimes feel like an unfair gift we have to give someone else. But what if it's actually God's prescription for our own hearts to heal? 

In this deeply personal episode, Lysa TerKeurst opens up about what it really looks like to practice forgiveness when it seems undeserved or out of reach. With honesty and tenderness, she shares insights from her own journey, offering practical guidance on processing pain, naming your hurt, and choosing obedience to God even when your heart hasn’t caught up yet. 

Through this conversation, you'll learn: 

  • What biblical forgiveness is and what it isn't. 
  • Ways to handle real struggles: from navigating personal betrayals to extending grace when someone has hurt your child. 
  • How letting go doesn’t mean letting someone keep hurting you.

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